I really need advice

hi, I've literally just joined and need some advice with my current situation. I'm 17 and my mother is an alcoholic and has been for a long time. Long enough that I cant remember much of when she was actually sober. My mum used to be so hard working and caring. She acttally had worked as a carer up until she has taken her mental breakdown, I still remember that day, that was the day that everything had changed. That was the day that I realised that I am now responsible for myself and her and that was the day I had to become an adult. I had no childhood because of this. My 'childhood' consisted of cooking for myself, cleaning the house, carrying her to bed after her passing out from the alcohol, even picking cigarette doubts from her mouth due to her being so drunk that she had tried to eat them from the ashtray. Things have never been good with my mother and due to this it has impacted me severely. I have tried so much to help her and get her to stop but nothing worked and I had to just accept that I had to live with it until I decide to move out whenever I get the money. 2 nights ago was when I had enough and had hidden her alcohol from her. She had put me out of the house at 8pm and locked the door. I slept rough that night. I had called my gran and told her what had happened so family were worried and came round to the house to look for me. It was my aunt and two cousins that went round to the house as my gran and grandad live far away. My aunt and cousins came to the house and my mum was obviously not drunk due to me hiding the alcohol but the living room she constantly locks herself away in was a mess like usual full of empty bottles and mess. My mum had told them she was not drinking and that I was in the bath... They beleieved her so she continued to tell lies and tell them I said and done things that I didn't and claimed I am trying to control her... Again they believed her and called my gran and told her I was attention seeking, without even checking if I was actually in the bath by knocking the door or anything. The next day I went to a homeless shelter and that was where I tried to end my life. I was taken to hospital to be met by my drunk mother who I sent away saying I want nothing more to do with her. My gran and boyfriend were also there and I told my gran what had happened and she believed me but the rest of my family continue to call me a liar. My gran and boyfriend have looked after me since then. My boyfriend has agreed that I need to be away from my mother as its only a matter of time before I actually end up being successfully dragged down by her. I have been offered a flat next to where I work as a fresh start to get away from her but I can't help but feel distraught at the thought of being away from the comfort of my own room and home. I'm torn between what to do. If I take the flat it means more responsibility on myself and I'll be out of pocket for god knows how long. My mum had been in contact with my youth worker today to tell her she will get help but I don't know how many times I've heard that and she's went back to the bottle days later. I just don't know what to do anymore I genuinely wish I had done it right when I had tried to end my life. Please help me I'm sorry this was so long but I need whoever reads this to really understand my situation...

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