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I'm moved to write after listening to Woman's Hour today, and
hearing both Tracey and Lauren's experiences of growing up with
alcohol dependant parents.
My own experience was very much more, for want of a better word,
'middle class' - successful father, stay at home frustrated and
bored mum, but both of them drank excessively, resulting in my mum's
death when I was 16 from liver cancer. My father died when I was 20,
after falling and hitting his head while drunk.
My perspective has been changed by the fact that I now work in
substance misuse, with mainly heroin and crack users who come from
broken homes of generally substance misusing parents.
I was taken in by a friend's family, who I now regard as my own,
but I see the toll from completely inadequate and selfish parenting
every day in my job, and am also eternally grateful to the family
who gave me hope and stability - recognising that I haven't yet
worked with anyone who had that second chance.
I'm now 30, and have a wonderful fiancée and fantastic friends,
but my teenage years were blighted by alcohol having a higher
priority than me. I experienced a lot of panic, anxiety and
depression in my 20's (and I've spent a lot on therapy!) but it
breaks my heart to know that children still live with the
inconsistency, lack of protection and harm that comes of having
parents that drink.
Thank you for existing - being heard and acknowledged is an
amazing thing as a child in that situation and I can't begin to
express what a difference you have made.
With many thanks and the best of wishes
Becci. |